--- title: What Is Your Secret Weapon? description: Aaron Walker of View from the Top, Iron Sharpens Iron Mastermind, helping ordinary men to become extraordinary, talks about diffusing arguments with our spouses. --- [sdd](http://www.viewfromthetop.com/) # Aaron Walker Live From The Greenway! ## [What Is Your Secret Weapon?](https://www.isibrotherhood.com/livefromthegreenway/what-is-your-secret-weapon) Posted by [Aaron Walker](https://www.isibrotherhood.com/livefromthegreenway/author/aaron-walker) on Jun 28, 2019 9:00:00 AM - [Tweet](https://twitter.com/share) We're reading that book John Gottman's book, Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work, and, I want to tell you, that book is absolutely outstanding. At first I didn’t want to read but in chapter 2, John Gottman asked a question that I never really thought about. He said, “What is your secret weapon for defusing arguments?” I started thinking about that a little bit. I want to ask you today. Do you take things too serious? I mean probably, you are arguing about some dumb stuff in your relationship. We've got to do things to defuse these situations. I’d like to ask you again, what is your secret weapon? What is that thing that you're using to defuse some of those arguments or bad situations or disagreements that you're having? So just think about it. I don't know what it is for you? Whatever it is though I would encourage you to defuse it faster than not. 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