View from the Summit

Treat me like your friend, not like your spouse!

One of my favorite episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond is when Robert’s girlfriend calls Debra during a fight with Raymond. Debra’s demeanor suddenly and dramatically changes when she answers the phone. Instead of fuming and arguing, she is instantly laughing and joking with Amy like they just left a party at Cheers.

My wife and I have made a conscience effort to not “freely offer” up advice to our grown kids anytime we see them doing something we would do different.

While we believe our own 30 years of child rearing gives us some insights that could be helpful in different situations, we also know the value in letting our kids come to their own decisions about life and family.

Will you be proactive or reactive?

 

 

The proactive leader looks ahead at “what could be” and creates “what they want to be”.

The reactive leader is always surprised and overwhelmed by “what is” and stresses out hoping to get things to at least “what they used to be”.

Over the course of their lives which leader – proactive or reactive – do you think ends up wealthier, healthier and happier?

TRUST

• Who do you talk to when you are undecided?
• Who’s an unbiased advisor when the chips are down?
• When you’re deciding between good and best, who’s your trusted advisor?

Most of the time what I hear is “I don’t have one”.

We generally revert to a life long friend or business associate in another field. We call legal council or talk to our spiritual advisor. All of these people have a significant role in our life but rarely can they offer an unbiased honest opinion for fear of leading you astray.